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How do you end something good?

Hoe neem je afscheid van iets goeds?

Seven nights. Seven cafés. Thank you, Amsterdam. You gave me more good advice than I ever asked for. Now come and hear what I did with it.

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Saturday 5 December · 19:00

Meet me on Sinterklaas.

One more round on me. And I'll read you the letter you helped me write, Amsterdam.

[Café name][Address], Amsterdam · 19:00–20:00 · everyone welcome
Ben
The letter opens on 5 December.

Right here, the moment Ben has read it out loud.

Where it started · Ben’s letter to Amsterdam

Hi Amsterdam,

I could use some advice.

I've been with someone for a long time. Longer than some of you have been alive.

When we got together, we agreed I could always stay who I am. Lately, it doesn't feel that way. The things I care about most have become things I'm not supposed to talk about.

I'll be honest: I'm angry. Hurt, too. But we built something good together.

I just know it can't be what it was meant to be if nothing changes.

So I'm doing what you do in Amsterdam when something's weighing on you. I'm going to the café, buying a round, and asking whoever's there:

How do you end something good?

If you're at one of the cafés this November, the drinks are on me. Write your advice on the back of the beer coaster. If you can't make it, write it on any coaster, or a napkin, and tag me. Funny, wise, blunt, gentle. I'll read every one.

Thank you. Really.

Cheers,

Ben

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“No need for closure, just leave.”
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“Remember the good bits.”
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